There’s a saying: insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expect something different to happen. At the same time we humans are doing the same thing again and again when we try to change something in our behaviour. But in fact this is not the case, we are already doing things slightly different. The only thing we forget to see is that there is a pattern in our minds that makes changing so difficult. Once you see this, and you start to forgive yourself that you are not able to change the pattern, things will start to change by itself. The secret is: you cannot really do. The only thing you can do is surrender. So stop fighting, keep trying and you will see things will change in your favour overnight.